i feel like a lot of the women going “you’ll have children eventually anyway! :)” whenever you mention that you dont want children are projecting their own eventual defeat in the same battle, because the vast majority of them are straight women in straight marriages, performing the role our heteropatriarchal society expects of them, part of which is having children (that many of them later regret having, either because it was too soon or they were right in their initial evaluation that they didn’t want children)

if they didn’t want children, but found themselves in a society where marrying a man and giving him children is inevitable and paraded as something that you yourself should want and embody as A Woman, surely it’s going to happen to you, too, right?